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Re-Framing Winter

Winter is on its way. For many of us, that’s not one of the
things we really like to hear. Winters in Wisconsin can be pretty extreme –
last winter definitely fell into that category. But have you ever thought about
how your own negative cold weather talk could be affecting your children?

Negativity is unbelievably contagious. Think about how it
sounds to your children, (and other family members and co-workers) when this is
what they hear all winter:

“It’s WAY too cold out.”

“I HATE winter.”

“The roads are going to be terrible!”

“Another gray and gloomy day….”

“This is NEVER going to end.”

For many children, winter is a favorite time of year. Snow
has a magical quality and when it appears one day, it offers all kinds of new
play opportunities. Rather than jump on the negative band wagon this year, help
your family and yourself by some intentional “re-framing” of the cold weather
season. Make it a point to notice and comment on the pluses like, “The
snowflakes are so beautiful when they’re this huge.”  “I love how cozy our house feels when the
wind is blowing outside!” “It’s a great day to make hot chocolate and watch a
movie.” Better yet, dress for the weather and get everyone out for a walk on a
sparkling and glittery night when the snow is falling.

It happens every year. Winter shows up for ALL of us in
Wisconsin – the lovers and the haters. Make this the year that you choose to
ride it out with a more positive outlook and before you know it, well, you know
what comes after winter……

-Regina

By |October 22nd, 2019|Child Care|0 Comments|

When Your Child Doesn’t Want to Go to School

At some point in time, most parents will hear the words “I
don’t WANT to go to school!” come from their child. So what do you do when it
happens? First and foremost – stay calm. Before you over-react, take a deep
breath and look at the situation for some clues. Consider these points:

Is this a new development?Has your child missed school for illness and
could be anxious about being behind in their work?Does your child feel comfortable with their
teacher/s?Have any new children recently joined the
class?Can you narrow down the part of the day the
child is concerned about? Recess? A lunchroom issue? Gym class?If your child rides a bus or is in a carpool,
is that a concern to them?Are they struggling with any particular
subjects in school?Are they anxious about being away from you?Do they have incomplete homework or projects
that are due?Have they ever expressed fear about school
violence?Have they ever expressed concerns about being
targeted by bullies?Has the school contacted you about problems
they have seen?Does your child have other anxieties or
worries?

Establishing frequent and open communication with your
child early on will help them be more likely to confide in you when
difficulties arise. After you collect the information that you can, you will be
better able to plan a course of action. You may be able to resolve the issue
yourself or you may need to work with school personnel to learn more or to determine
the best way to address things. And finally – don’t rule out that they might
just be having “one of those days.”

-Regina

By |September 30th, 2019|Child Care|0 Comments|

Reconnecting Kids With Nature

When you ask
a group of adults to share some of their favorite childhood memories, very
often the answers will involve time spent outdoors. At a recent staff meeting,
we did just that and teachers shared great stories about camping trips, fishing
in small streams, playing with sticks and mud, and laying in the grass to watch
clouds, among other things. Just hearing about the remembered positive
experiences created a relaxing and uplifting mood for all of us.

So what will
our children (and grandchildren} say? Are we giving them opportunities for the
same kind of relaxing time in nature that we all remember so fondly? In too
many cases, we are probably falling short of what we would like to say. So many
families find themselves with very busy and very structured lives that don’t
include enough outdoor time.

How can we
help children reconnect with nature? It might be easier than you think.
Following are some simple suggestions. Start small and make it a point to add
more experiences as you go.

Plan
family outdoor experiences like after dinner walks, picnics, or trips to parks
and beaches.Provide
your child with outdoor toys like butterfly nets, binoculars, bug catchers,
sand boxes and sand toys, kites, etc.Take
your books outside! Create a family outdoor reading area. Start
some simple gardening.Dress
your children for the weather so they can enjoy being outside in all four
seasons.Go
outside after dark and look for stars, fireflies, or the moon.Bring
some nature inside. Decorate with plants, seashells, driftwood, and interesting
stones.Play
relaxing “nature sound” music in your home to set a peaceful tone.Watch
for outdoor events like concerts, craft fairs, food events, or charity walks.Eat
outside when you can!Help
your child notice their surroundings – trees that are budding, birds in the
trees, cloud formations, etc.

The best
thing you can do to encourage a reconnection with nature is to reconnect
yourself […]

By |August 12th, 2019|Child Care|0 Comments|

Future Success Anxiety

When we think about starting our own family, most of us dream about happy times, adorable children, and magical moments.What many of us don’t think about at that point is the heavy load of responsibility that comes with being a parent – and that responsibility never ends no matter how old our “baby” becomes.

While a pregnancy absolutely can bring its share of worries and “what-ifs”, many people find that when that baby comes home from the hospital, the true worrying begins. A very common concern among parents is what kind of person that child will be as an adult. Will they be successful? Will they get into college? Will they find a job? Will they get married? Will they move far away? Will they have friends?

Laying some basic groundwork for a child’s future IS important, but the key is to balance the future with the present, with a heavy emphasis on the present. If all our energy goes into what our child will be like as an adult, we’ll miss the joy of knowing them as a child. A popular buzzword these days is “mindfulness” – taking time to genuinely and fully experience what is happening at the moment. As parents we can get very caught up in all of the daily distractions of life – meals to fix, bills to pay, car repairs to schedule…..When we are practicing mindfulness we might be playing a game with our child, baking cookies together, watching a movie with them, going for a walk, or we might be stepping back and listening in when our children are playing with friends to hear how they are interpreting the world.

Worried about your child’s future? Spend […]

By |June 24th, 2019|Child Care|0 Comments|

Losing A Pet

As parents,
one of the hardest things in life is watching our children experience pain and
sadness. When a treasured family pet dies, many children are faced with their
first introduction to death.

Death is a
difficult subject for adults and when we struggle ourselves with the concept,
it makes it even harder to know how best to handle explanations with our
children. Religious beliefs definitely come into play when you determine
how/what you will share, but following are some basic Do’s and Don’ts to
consider.

DON’T

…tell
children the animal was “put to sleep” or didn’t wake up from sleep. Children
may develop a fear of sleeping themselves.….minimize
the event by saying things like, “It was just a cat.”….stop
talking about the pet. At first it may be painful but it’s an important step in
being able to remember the happy memories and to show that there is value in
all life.….tell
children not to cry. Expressing their sadness is important.…rush
into getting another pet immediately. One animal does not replace another.

DO

…encourage
children to talk about the pet that died and about their feelings.…discuss
dying, death, and grief honestly, but don’t dwell on it. Children may need only
small amounts of information at first if they are very young. …be
clear about the permanence  of death.…watch
for signs children are struggling – loss of appetite, withdrawal, toileting
lapses, nightmares or other sleep disruption.…understand
children may return to the subject repeatedly as they process the death.…consider
holding some kind of small “good-bye” ritual.….find
a special way to remember the pet.

By |May 10th, 2019|Child Care|0 Comments|